TQ, a friend of many years, does not understand a rule I live by, which is: never give unsolicited advice.<\/p>\n
Here are 5 reasons why<\/em> I do not give unsolicited advice — and why I am not crazy about getting it, either:<\/p>\n 1 — If other people really wanted your advice, they would ask for it.<\/p>\n 2 — People don’t value advice unless they seek it out. And even then, they don’t really value advice all that much unless they PAY for it.<\/p>\n 3 — The giver of unsolicited advice often makes the erroneous assumption that the receiver has goofed because of lack of knowledge.<\/p>\n What the giver does not realize is that the receiver either (a) does not agree with the giver’s opinion or (b) has made the error because of lack of time — or because fixing it is not a priority.<\/p>\n 4–The giver of unsolicited advice may claim his motive is purely to be helpful, but the action is almost always driven in part by a conceited desire to show off (what he perceives as) his superior knowledge. <\/p>\n As such, it comes across as argumentative, arrogant, and annoying — not kind, friendly, and helpful.<\/p>\n 5 — The advice giver erroneously assumes that the topic in question is a priority to the recipient.<\/p>\n In fact, it may not be a priority. Often, it is not even the least bit important.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" TQ, a friend of many years, does not understand a rule I live by, which is: never give unsolicited advice. Here are 5 reasons why I do not give unsolicited advice — and why I am not crazy about getting it, either: 1 — If other people really wanted your advice, they would ask for […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1848,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-485","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/485","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1848"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=485"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/485\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=485"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=485"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=485"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}